Friday, March 14, 2014

Not In My Back Yard - Aspies not welcome in their homeland

I dare to say Singaporean Aspies are not welcome in our homeland. We are just like snakes, to be driven out by some certain Saint. As an Aspie myself, I think Aspies may be considered pests or parasites of our society, for some reasons.  But I do know the ones causing our suffering are definitely mistreating others like us, and therefore, sinister, to say the least.

We all want to bring the best out of whatever abilities we have and minimize the costs of our failures, just as any other rational human beings.

Being identified as an Aspie does not make us stupid, vulnerable or incapable to ourselves. It is the way other people perceive our characteristics, and link them with our conditions, that make us stupid, vulnerable or incapable.

However, let us be clear about it - Aspies are perceived as incapable, and it is our human nature not to be associated with such people, and it happens that we have the traits that make their conditions a hindrance to their lives (i.e. defining Aspies as Aspies).

So this means we try to make our achievements public while we try to hide our autism conditions, while we promote about what we can do for society. This means we can help our community only in secret, so that we do not cannibalize our chances of success.

Please be clear in what do you want, friends.

Do you want to be identified as an Aspie? Are you so fearful of that because that already sort of happened in your life?

Or you want to be identified as, say, a great artist, who moves and shakes the world with some masterpiece that the world identifies with?

I am sure for all of us, the answer will be latter.

If you don't want to be identified as an Aspie, and you just want to live your own life as 'you', then just live you in your own personal space. At least the Internet is vast enough for you to create many alter egos, don't you?

If you know what you want to be in your life, then work not for preventing being an Aspie, but work for the person that you truly want to be, and I am sure it has no 'autism' label. A few autism groups I know have the mechanism to isolate the autism label from the others, so that you could bring your views to autism - and then, moving on, you could go on be your true selves completely without autism label through another alter ego.

From my observations with a handful of Aspies from Hong Kong, the discrimination against Hong Kong-born Aspies in Hong Kong is definitely much more than the discrimination against Singapore-born Aspies in Singapore. Plus, for people like me, we have no other homeland we can call our own - not China, through the Bandung Declaration that we have to declare loyalty to our host nations, not our 'host nations' where we may be discriminated when we are not immigrants, and certainly not the land we call Singapore, where we are second class citizens in the land we are born and bred.

Ironically, given the perception of America and Britain that they are 'free' lands - when people with autism in America and Britain are also suffering in their own way through lack of opportunities in a really competitive environment, it is more likely that we Aspie Singaporeans choose to be third class citizens in these countries, doubly discriminated as people of both disability and color.

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